Unearthing the Reason
All anger has a starting source. Discovering the source so that the situation can be explored is the beings change.
Anger gives other people power over us. That power rules our emotions and our lives. Forgiveness gives us the inner peace necessary to take that power back for ourselves. Forgiving does not mean forgetting. Rather, it is accepting what it, and moving forward with life.
Identification of the outside sources allows for management of the distress, dysfunction, and unrest that affects lives. Life does not have to be ruled by daily stress, but appropriate reactions can be learned for a more peaceful way of living.
Anxiety stems from an internal source and does not have to be a life-long dysfunction. There are skills, tools, and the ability to build awareness so that different reactions happen to stressful situations.
Asperger’s Syndrome/High Functioning Autism (HFA)
Imagine trying to ice skate without blades. You can see everyone else enjoying themselves on the ice, they land amazing jumps, even the 3 year olds are speeding past you. However, every time you try to skate you can’t seem to succeed since you aren’t wearing the right equipment. Your anxiety builds as you gather yourself to stand on your feet, but as you start moving you slip again and crash to the ice. Depression sets in as you sit on the cold, wet ice. Sitting there, you realize that the cycle isn’t over, you need to do it again so you get up and skate, but you’re still without blades. -Julie Hjelm
Understanding emotions, social interactions, and behavioral styles
Those with High Functioning Autism (Asperger’s Syndrome) may not have fully developed social skills, may have an interesting speech pattern, may be physically awkward, and may have very limited interests.
This is an inheritable neurological issue, so if you have a child, which has been diagnosed with High Functioning Autism (Asperger’s Syndrome), there is a chance that one of the parents may also have the same issue.
As an adult, you may have always thought that you think different the rest of the world. The coping skills that may have worked for you as a child have become roadblocks for making real connections with not only your partner but with most other people.
In couples: when a partner has High Functioning Autism (Asperger’s Syndrome)
You may have noticed that your relationship is different from other people. The symptoms of High Functioning Autism have frustrated both partners, but that can change. With understanding, skills, and behavior modifications for both parties, there is hope for a long and happy future